Have you experienced having a wound resulting from an accident? Or perhaps, can you still recall how you got that scar on your body when you were a child? Can you still remember how it was healed? Maybe you were rushed to the hospital for some stitches or were once told that “Malayo sa bituka yan” implying that your wound is not that big to cause serious harm so you just let it heal on its own. Indeed, the saying “time heals all wounds” when taken literally is best applicable to those physical wounds. It suggests that over time, physical wounds tend to heal and fade away.
But how about those wounds that cannot be seen by the naked eyes – emotional wounds?
“Time Heals All Wounds” is generally viewed as a positive saying. It suggests that with time, emotional pain or distress will lessen and eventually fade away, indicating a sense of hope and optimism for the future.
It could also mean resilience, as one continues to move on with one’s life despite emotional challenges. Believing that wounds will heal can encourage people to persevere through difficult times. This belief could also provide hope, suggesting that no matter how deep the pain or hardship, healing is possible with time. Moreover, it can be particularly encouraging during challenging times to believe that things will get better eventually.
Indeed, most people would probably agree and attest to this saying, right? Well, why would they not? In our fast-paced generation, where most things are expected to be instant, including the processing of our emotional problems, we tend to cling to this saying because we don’t want to face our emotional struggles, believing that, in time, they will eventually heal.
However, for some people who have been battling emotional struggles and continue to be wounded emotionally, being told ‘patience is key’ or ‘just give it time’ may add to their emotional pain.
If you have experienced something that feels unresolved or continues to impact you despite the passage of time, it might be beneficial to explore these feelings with support, whether through therapy, discussion, or even some personal reflection.
While “Time Heals All Wounds” is generally a positive and hopeful sentiment, there can be negative aspects to believing in it as well that might hinder your healing process.
Believing solely in time to heal wounds can lead to passivity in actively seeking help or solutions to problems. Relying solely on time may also neglect the importance of actively engaging in healing practices, such as therapy or self-care.
It may also inadvertently invalidate the current pain and struggles of individuals, suggesting that they should simply wait for time to pass rather than addressing their feelings. Also, it might create unrealistic expectations about the timeline of healing, causing frustration or disappointment if healing takes longer than expected. Hence, the belief that time will heal all wounds may lead to prolonged suffering if they do not actively work through their pain or seek appropriate support.
Remember that being emotionally wounded is not that easy, so saying that “time heals all wounds” can oversimplify the complex process of emotional recovery. Emotional healing is often not just about the passage of time, but also about actively engaging in coping mechanisms, seeking support, and processing emotions.
Time alone does not give us healing properties, but it gives us a chance to work on our emotional wounds.
What are your thoughts on what might help in situations where time alone doesn’t seem to be enough?
Remember that time alone won’t heal you. In fact, time on its own can worsen your wounds if you’re not going to use it properly. So, don’t just sit down and do nothing.